👵The Joy of Freedom as We Age: Elderecsence Academy by Sarnia de la Maré FRSA
The Joy of Freedom as We Age Welcome to Elderescence Academy — reflections on growing older with curiosity, creativity, and calm. One of the quietest but most profound psychological changes that often accompanies age is the gradual disappearance of a particular pressure: the need to impress other people. It is so deeply embedded in early life that we rarely recognise how much of our behaviour is organised around it. From childhood onwards, approval becomes a guiding force. At school we learn very quickly which behaviours bring praise, which attract ridicule, and which allow us to belong. Later this instinct expands into a complex system of social signals — career success, appearance, education, lifestyle, taste, social circles. All of these operate partly as ways of signalling competence or desirability to others. Much of early adulthood therefore becomes a form of continuous presentation. We curate versions of ourselves. We measure our progress against peers. We worry about how ...